The more popular version of this wisdom is “You are the average of the five people you spend the most amount of time with.”
Every relationship you have is an influence.
And each interaction you have with that relationship is a nudge.
The nudge could be in a positive or negative direction.
And allowing the influence to dictate the course of your life.
The people we surround ourselves with define our character, ideologies, values, opinions, ambition. In short, our life.
Sounds dramatic, but it’s true.
Jim Rohn says it better. “Successful people look for relationships with other successful people who will push them, challenge them, and encourage them to become better.”
And this one.
“Attitude is greatly shaped by influence and association.”
So much of our life goes in having and maintaining connections of convenience.
The people who surround us don’t challenge us. They deflate us.
They are the first ones to tell us that “it’s a waste of time.”
Ask yourself “Who am I surrounding myself with? How do they influence my behaviour? What content do they have me consuming? What do they have me thinking? Saying? Doing? What am I becoming?”
Reflect on that.
And then, ask yourself “Is that okay?”
Take stock of your close friends. Associations. Who do you spend your time with?
Reflect on whether they are helping you move forward, or holding you back. And then decide “Do I need to reduce the time I spend in their association?”
It’s tough but necessary.