Every once in a while, my wife and I get into “a discussion”.
It starts off as one anyway.
We talk, we argue, we debate, we express how we feel. But then there comes a point. She’s talking and expressing her frustrations over something.
She’s explaining how something is difficult, or how she can’t figure something out.
So I jump in. And offer a solution. Or two. Or more.
The solutions are great, and they could solve the problem.
But what she’s thinking is:
“I just want him to be a friend and listen.”
By the way, this is not only a guy thing.
We are so programmed to jump from one solution to another that we don’t catch a breath.
Jumping from person to person as if each one is an agenda. A task that we need to tick off.
We miss the present moment for what it is.
Even if it IS a discussion, or a debate, or an argument.
We forget to be human.
Sometimes, all someone wants from us is to be human.
To be present.
And make a real connection.
Think about how you are showing up for someone. Are you truly being present for them?
Being empathetic. Listening. Understanding. Connecting.
When the next opportunity arises, be present in the moment.