Let’s expand on that a little.
Whatever experience you want to have, give that experience to others first.
If you want love, give love.
If you want empathy, be understanding.
If you want compassion, show compassion to others.
When we offer our virtues out to the world, we, in turn, strengthen them within us.
But too often, we are in acquisition mode.
Whether it’s family, friends, or colleagues, we are always asking more than we are willing to give. We believe it is our entitlement.
Or worse, that we don’t have enough to give.
You may feel you are giving from an empty cup, but part of what makes us human is that we always have enough.
We always have a little to offer.
And this little offering multiplies when it comes back.
Try giving five minutes of your time to your kids.
How about a loving hug for your partner?
A few words of encouragement to someone new at work?
It fills your cup as much as it fills theirs.
Identify an area of your life where you are currently seeking an emotion or experience. Perhaps because you feel you don’t have enough of it.
Now give that same experience to someone close to you. No expectations.
Whatever little you can offer, offer it. It may feel like an effort, but do it anyway. And be genuine.
Recognise how rewarding that experience feels.