Isn’t this how it always is? I’m in this situation, and I wish I wasn’t.
The focus and energy are on how we don’t like something. Not on how we can change what we don’t like.
But don’t be too hard on yourself.
We are products of our environment and conditioning. Our behaviours are picked up by watching others. Emulating them.
We don’t want to be the ones always shining bright like the sun. They’d think we’d lost it!
Remember Parker from Friends? Alec Baldwin played Phoebe’s boyfriend. The guy who gets a kick out of everything. Even their breakup was a moment of celebration for him.
It’s natural for us to reciprocate someone’s negative situation with our own. It’s empathy. We want to feel connected.
But what happens over time is we become like that. We start by empathising, but we end up in a negative frame.
The situation you confront is what it is. The starting point should be “Here I am”.
“Now, let’s see where I can go from here.”
Accept reality. See the opportunity it presents. Then move forward.
What challenge or negative state are you facing? Perhaps you are in a reality that you wish wasn’t true.
Start by telling yourself “I’m here. Now what’s next.”
Figure out what your next step should be.
Focus your energy on the solution, and moving forward. Then go forth.