How often do you find yourself zoning out when in a conversation?
The other person’s trying to explain or make a point, and you are trying to figure out what to say next.
Never present in the conversation.
Ever ready to say your piece.
We have our own story to tell. So other stories are irrelevant.
It’s as if we are getting ready for our performance in each moment. It’s always OUR moment.
And then we wonder why we don’t build genuine connections or relationships.
Because we are not present. We are not connecting when we should be. We are stuck in our own story loop.
There’s another reason.
We think that if we don’t contribute to the conversation, we lose value. By listening and not talking, our ego feels deflated.
We have to prove that we also know something. So we start our own story loop again. Not present, but figuring out what to say next.
For once, we need to get out of our performance mode and get into an audience mode.
Be present for what is happening.
During your next conversation, try to be present as a listener.
Pretend you are there to absorb and empathise. Your contribution to the conversation will be your listening. Your presence.
See how that manifests for you. And what connection you build.